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Do Mormons "shun" someone who leaves the church?
Written by Jon
Friday, 11 November 2011
This is a little complicated. I am a 20-year old college student. I am not a Mormon but my girlfriend is. We are getting serious, emotionally (not physically yet) and we are trying to figure out where this is going. We will get married but our difference in faith are an issue. I was orphaned when I was six and since then have read a lot about religion (the bible, Talmud, the Quran, Book of Mormon, and even the Pearl of Great Price), but I have not been able to accept a that a "kind god" took my five year-old sister. I accept other peoples faith, even envy them, but can not find it for myself.
I try to be a good person and do what is right; I don't drink or smoke, I am athletic, a good student, and I spend time a local childrens home working with kids like me who lost everyone. I think it helps me more than it does them. I have many flaws but my girlfriend looks past those. I love her very much. But if we get married I can not join the church - I just can not pretend to believe in something I don't.
I know there are ways for mixed marriage to work within the Church, but my girlfriend is thinking of leaving. (She had some trouble in the past because her mom was pregnant with her before marriage and some people have said less than kind things about her.) Her parents like me and I love them, but I am afraid that if she leaves the church because of me there will be a barrier between her and her family. Family is incredibly important to me because I lost mine.
I should probably ask her, but I don't want it to seem that I am pressuring her in any way. So my question is - if someone leaves the church does their family relationship generally stay the same except for religious functions, or is there a Mormon practice of "shunning" as in some other faiths?