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Written by Kathy   
Monday, 09 June 2008
HOW DOES THE CHURCH FEEL ABOUT INTER-RACIAL MARRIAGE?

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1. Interracial marriage
Hi Kathy. 
 
The official doctrine of the church does not condemn marriage between different races in any way, and there are more and more inter-racial marriages, just as there are in society as a whole. 20 years ago, I asked a general authority about this very topic, and was told that marriage can be challenging, and an inter-racial marriage could be extra challenging, and that needed to be taken into consideration when choosing a spouse. You want to do everything to help ensure a successful marriage. And if race will enter into the picture, it is something to ponder upon before getting married. In today's environment, it becomes less of an issue. But no matter what, we believe that God honors the committments the same, and that his choices blessings are available to all families, regardless of race, or if the couple is of the same race or not. We see many inter-racial marriages thrive. Love and service is deeper than skin color after all. 
 
Hope that answer helps!
Sister of Jared
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06-12-2008 01:36
2. I'm Mixed-Raced
My name is Jason and I am the administrator and starter of this site. I am a mixed-race person and just about 90% of all my living relatives are, too. The church has put out guidelines that state that it is recommended to marry within your own "culture" for the sole reason that mixing cultures has shown to be hard on marriages (this is true both inside the church and out). 
 
It has nothing to do with race. 
 
For instance, an american, full-caucasian (white) girl that was born and raised in the Phillipines (let's say because she was from a military family) could marry a local Phillipino and have a very successful marriage. This is because she was raised in the same country and understands the culture.  
 
However, a white girl from Utah could have significantly more marital problems marrying the same Philipino guy. 
 
I come from a culture where it is common to take in family members to live with you if they are struggling or need help, or to give them money without the expectation of getting paid back. Many Americans, no matter what race they are, have had problems marrying into my culture. 
 
What it all boils down to is that your marriage will be successful if: 
 
1. You learn to sacrifice for your spouse. 
2. You make the Gospel of Jesus Christ your culture, leaving all other cultural practices and expectations behind it.
Jason H.
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09-30-2008 13:21
3. I'm Mixed-Raced
I am a converted LDS member, who have a children that is biracial and would not mind marrying a man outside my race. Jason's answer is appreciative and well thought out because in essence the truth is we, as Christians, put the Lord first; the guidelines that our community put on our respective cultures is irrelevant for a happy marriage. Thanks Jason
KHADIJAH BAREFIELD
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02-08-2010 08:56
4. Inter-Racial Celestial Marriage
Can an interracial couple be sealed for time and eternity in an LDS Temple? 
 
Have any interracial couples ever been sealed for time and eternity?
Mike Burke
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10-25-2011 00:22
5. Yes, Absolutley Mike
There is absolutely no issue about interracial couples being sealed together. That happens every single day throughout the world. Race is not even a consideration for going to the temple. Did you know that there are more Mormons outside of North America and that there are more non-English speaking Mormons than English speaking? The Church is very much a global, cosmopolitan church.
jett
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10-25-2011 08:12
6. Miss.
So, Im a young girl, thinking about converting to LDS. Hopefully I will be soon, but I came with this issue today at school. I got picked on, and bullied for a relshinship I have with a African American, I am white. But, I was wondering are there any quotes about it from a prophet, and how can I deal with this?
Brittani Ward
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03-20-2012 17:24
7. Belle
We know that it isn't a sin to marry outside one's race. That should say it all. 
 
There is, however, a reason people often raise an eyebrow when inter-racial marriages do occur. It's because there are foreseeable issues ahead of the couple. 
 
For instance, when indicating race on registration forms, do the children of said couple check off all ethnicities? We are seeing a growing trend of the "other" or "multi-race" box for those forms. 
 
When children from inter-racial marriages begin to date, do they seek a partner of their own skin color? Do they seek something outside of their own color? That, then, brings in the family of the "to-be-dated"...how do they feel about inter-racial marriages?  
 
A dear friend of mine is a blue-eyed Canadian. She married a very southern black man and have a wonderful marriage. All of her family photos show the dichotomy of their genes. She is the only pale face on her walls. Because they live near HIS family, all family outings peg her as the odd one in the picture.  
Consequently, she tans and tans in the summer so as to not pose such a striking contrast between her and her children.  
 
When combining genes, one should be fully aware of the medical and physical differences. Buying specialized shampoo may not be something a new mom thinks about but may need to know.  
 
And, to be clear...the term "African American" does, indeed, identify many of our neighbors. Those who really are from Africa fall into this category. But, we need to be careful how we identify a growing number of others. We can no longer look at a person with dark skin and assume that they have immigrated to America. Many are now from Haiti...or Jamaica... 
 
My ancestors came from Germany, Norway, Sweden, England. I have yet to find a box for me to check that would indicate that. Why can't I be called a "Scandinavian/German-American"?
Southern Girl
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04-03-2012 09:14
8. Belle
I am not Mormon, but trying to understand a Mormon family we know. I am in a very happy inter-racial marriage. I am East Indian and my wife is white. Our marriage is based on mutual love, understanding and trust. My wife and I are appreciate of each others cultures and culture has NEVER gotten in the way of our marriage.  
 
We know a Mormon family that is close to my wife, but I have never really been able to feel comfortable with them because I get the sense that we are always being judged because we're in an inter-racial marriage. Some of the commentary I am reading above is helping me correct my thinking.
Vin
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04-05-2012 16:11
9. JenB
I am a bi-racial member of the LDS church. I have absolutely never read or heard any official doctrine to counter bi-racial marriages. There are inter-racial LDS couples all over the world! It is possible that you may feel uncomfortable because of the personal beliefs or biases of the individuals that you are dealing with, but there is no doctrinal backing to what you feel from then. I am sorry that you have formed that impression of the LDS church.
Jennie Bennion
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04-08-2012 20:50
10. Mr.
1. There is, however, a reason people often raise an eyebrow when inter-racial marriages do occur. It's because there are foreseeable issues ahead of the couple.  
As an observer of many marriages, I would suggest that ALL couples face issues and challenges. I have also observed that marriages between people who differ in color and culture place essentially the same demands on the participants. Love, commitment and dedication are the first essentials. Awareness and common sense run a very close second. If the people do not have those, they really should not get married at all – regardless of color, ethnicity or whatever.  
 
2. For instance, when indicating race on registration forms, do the children of said couple check off all ethnicities? We are seeing a growing trend of the "other" or "multi-race" box for those forms.  
Are you really seriously stressing over this? Should people avoid mixed marriages because of identification inadequacy on forms? People will check the box that best suits them, or, if the form is deficient, they may write-in or simply ignore.  
 
3. When children from inter-racial marriages begin to date, do they seek a partner of their own skin color? Do they seek something outside of their own color? That, then, brings in the family of the "to-be-dated"...how do they feel about inter-racial marriages?  
They seek whoever they find attractive for the very same reasons that their same color/ethnicity dating counterparts seek those whom they date. For reasonable, normal, loving human beings, liking and loving are not mandated by color or ethnicity. Mental, psychological and emotional barriers need to be in place to make people limit their lives accordingly. 
 
4. A dear friend of mine is a blue-eyed Canadian. She married a very southern black man and have a wonderful marriage. All of her family photos show the dichotomy of their genes. She is the only pale face on her walls. Because they live near HIS family, all family outings peg her as the odd one in the picture.  
Consequently, she tans and tans in the summer so as to not pose such a striking contrast between her and her children.  
Thank you for pointing out so convincingly that being different in color has not prevented your friend from having a wonderful marriage. I hope she takes adequate precautions with so much sun. I’m sure her husband and children prefer that she be healthy and paler rather than become a browner skin cancer victim. 
 
5. When combining genes, one should be fully aware of the medical and physical differences. Buying specialized shampoo may not be something a new mom thinks about but may need to know.  
Learning about special shampoo is the least of a new mom’s worries. New moms in all sorts of marriages may have to learn about allergies, physical and/or mental disabilities, etc. These issues present themselves to challenge couples of whatever combination or other of colour or ethnicity. 
 
6. My ancestors came from Germany, Norway, Sweden, England. I have yet to find a box for me to check that would indicate that. Why can't I be called a "Scandinavian/German-American"? 
As someone of such mixed ancestral heritage, do/did you have problems deciding who to marry? Just imagine, your children would have such a wealth of cultural connections if you were married to someone of a different four ethnic traditions. With such connections, they would have a heavy investment in peaceful co-existence. Now isn’t that a blueprint for a better world?
Charles Allan
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05-18-2012 00:04


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