I am a Catholic by choice and have no intention of leaving. A dear friend I sponsored into the Catholic faith has all of a sudden decided to become a Mormon. She does not want to talk about why and I am just supposed to be happy for her and accept her decision. However, how can I be happy when according to your beliefs, she should, as a good Mormon, try and convert me? She said she has always been supportive of my beliefs, but I do not think she realizes yet that she can no longer be and that we will, according to your beliefs, not even get to see each other in Heaven because we will not be in the same Heaven. I feel like she should at least be willing to explain things to me so I can understand why she felt she had to leave my faith. I am hurt and sad and depressed and it has led to arguing between the two of us, which I do not want. What can I do? She refuses to put herself in my shoes and try to understand how I feel. I want to be supportive of her choice but I also want her to understand me and how and why I am feeling this way right now. This whole thing does not feel very Christlike and I do not like the fact that I am being made out to look like the bad guy just because I want her to talk to me and I want some answers. Even though I am Catholic, I have always stood up to Christians that attack Mormons. Can you help me repair this friendship? Thank you and God bless.
I think there is a misconception and miscommunication going on between the two of you.
There is no doctrinal or religious reason why the two of you cannot continue to be good friends. If you don't wish to convert - that is your choice. One of our Articles of Faith says " 11 We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.". I have relatives who have chosen not to continue to be or live as a Mormon is expected to be. I feel bad for them, but I still love, respect and associate with them. They are still family. It's not like I will shun or ostracize them. The same goes for my non-Mormon friends. My next door neighbor has had lots of opportunities to hear about our Church and he has declined. That is up to him. He is still one of the nicest, kindest person I know. We are lucky to have him as a neighbor. It would not be Christlike for us to not associate with him just because he is not Mormon.
I suspect your friend is going through an adjustment as it can be a big change for someone. Continue to be kind, patient and loving - and I am sure she will return the favor.
While reading this post I feel you have a lot of anger about her decision which I think it a part of the reason why conversation will be difficult for some time.
It seems that the true issue here is you feel like since you sponsored this person to join your faith and now that she converts to another that you are by virtue required and explanation. When my wife converted from Catholicism she expected this same treatment and feared to inform here family of her decision. Fortunately with 1 exception the entire family welcomed her openly and instead of looking for explanations or reasons, instead choose to learn more of our faith and find the similarities that Catholics and Mormons can share. I highly recommend the you follow my wife's families example and choose to find the good of this event instead of choosing to focus on the negativity of this event.
I also feel that coming to further understand LDS teachings and doctrine will help as well. We do not preach that you and your friend will not be able see each other in the spirit world.
The Degrees of Glory, (Celestial, Terrestrial, and Telestial) come AFTER the final judgment and Satan is cast forever into outer darkness.
Also there is no denominational requirements or limitations for any kingdom by the Celestial Kingdom (which means while LDS ordinances are required to live with Heavenly Father for eternity, receiving these ordinances do not guarantee entrance, LDS will and up in the Terrestrial and even Telestial Kingdoms, also non LDS will convert in the spirit world and enter into the Celestial Kingdom). Also it is doctrinally believed that someone can always visit and fellowship with friends and families in lower glories, just not the converse a lower glory cannot visit a higher glory because they are unprepared to enter that kingdom.
So if for some reason you two are not in the same mansion in heaven you will still see each other as frequently as you do now, do not worry about that. LDS have never taught nor endorsed the idea of abandoning friends or family unless there is open violence or hostility has torn the relationship apart.
I would recommend you understand and imagine things from your friends shoes INSTEAD of demanding she imagine things from yours,just as Christ said "remove the beam from our eye before we try and remove the mote from our brother's eye".
Your friend is entering a new faith and is in a place where the last thing she needs is people she trusted as true friends demanding explanations or justifications for her choice. If it was reversed the two of you were Mormon and she invited you to take the missionary lessons and later you converted to Catholicism, wouldn't you feel betrayed if she hunted you down demanding answers?
You are right demanding answers from someone you call friend is NOT Christlike, we are suppose to be as disciples of Christ meek and forgiving. I know that the decision to convert of this friend is very painful to you but to take that pain and turn it into contention is to allow the adversary into your relationship and surrender your love for each other to Lucifer to twist and distort as he wills.
I say be as Christ and tell Satan "get ye hence from me", cast out the contention and find peace in the atonement of the Lord, focus instead on being the best Catholic you can instead of demeaning why this friend is now trying to be the best Mormon they can be,
That is the solution to your issue, have faith in Christ and focus on improving your passions that lead to such anger against a dear friend, repent of this wickedness, and ask your friend to forgive your transgression. This will mend your relationship and be the foundation of a lifetime of Christian fellowship between a Catholic and a Mormon.
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