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Temple Marriage and non-member boyfriend |
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Written by Sandy
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Tuesday, 28 December 2010 |
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I am a 24 year old female who's been dating a non-member (very strong Catholic) for over a year now.. Yes, I already see the issue in my decision to date him seriously, but at first, he was taking lessons and I thought we'd be able to win him over (so to say).. He's still not a member, however he supports me 101% with Church and my calling and never misses a Sunday at Church with me. It's not for lack of trying, because he eventually wants to be a member, he just doesn't want to do it on anyone's terms but his and God's. He loves our faith, but his family are also extremely strong Catholics and their only issue with me is that I'm mormon (it doesn't help that I'm also the Bishops daughter.. so yes, Sunday lunches at their place can be rather awkward, lol - but I love him and his family). Anyway, I don't know what else to do.. He wants to get married, and so do I, but I want a temple wedding and nothing less. We're looking at getting married by the end of 2012, but we're having huge issues about where. He wants us to have a civil wedding, in his church - and then we can work towards getting sealed in the temple within a year. But I'm getting my endowments next year, and I really want a temple wedding. I've told him that I love him, but not enough to sacrifice my eternal marriage - and that if he's not going to give it to me, then he's not the one. And boy oh boy was that the wrong move - he cried his eyes out saying that there's not just one way. That he will not marry anyone but me and if that means faking his desire to get baptised and taking me to the temple, then that's what he'll do. His family have already made it clear to the both of us that there's only one way and that's the Catholic way. My family don't expect anything but a Temple wedding.. soooo help me please? :( I love him and do not want to lose him, but at the end of the day, I can't imagine my life without a man who's willing to take me to the temple to be sealed for all time and eternity. I've explained this to him and he doesn't believe we need to be sealed here on earth. That his grandparents and his ancestors are already together in heaven and they didn't need a temple marriage.. ugh, it's just all so messy! :( I was thinking that when I get my endowments, I would then be willing to marry him in his Church, but.. I'm just hurt that, oh I don't know anymore :( any advice would be greatly appreciated.. Thank you
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